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BarkellWH
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From: Washington, DC
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RE: Parking lot incident (in reply to jg7238)
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Something similar happened to me about three years ago, except it was a guy. While he was waiting, interminably it seemed, for a car to pull out so he could take the spot, another car just ahead of me pulled out of its slot and I parked in it. The guy waiting for the other slot berated me for taking the slot I did while he was still waiting for the other one. I gathered he thought that because he had been waiting longer, that he should have whichever parking slot opened up first, even if it wasn't the one he was waiting for. While he was berating me, I just walked away and suggested that he grow up. Yes, there are a lot of idiots out there. But there are enough good people who actually accomplish something and are reasonable that one should not lose faith over one or two bad incidents. Cheers, Bill
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Date Jan. 14 2012 21:18:38
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Ruphus
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RE: Parking lot incident (in reply to jg7238)
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I take traffic conditions as indicator for mentality and culture. Over here for instance, with the worlds highest death toll of 124 000 per year, ways in traffic indicate a culture of lacking foresight, empathy and rationality. From Malaysia for instance I hear of quite the opposite with a traffic of remarkable consideration and anticipation. Vice versa, I am convinced that educational measures in the media that would expound on dispropotion of reckless shove / risk of accident and apparent spare of time, on exponential collision power at rising speed, etc. and their resulting tame of traffic to a degree would yield repercussion on general mentality. That´s at least how it appeared to me in Germany after regular educational TV spots of decades ago. ( A progress unfortunately encreasingly reversed however with the growing number of immigrated traffic participants from eastern / southern hemisphere who import their homelands traffic mentality to Germany. - Maybe, the US might have seen their share as well. For, as I remember from the seventies and eighties, traffic mentality there used to be pretty easy going and considerate.) Where I am, and obviously in many other regions too, preparation and examination for driving license are a joke. It has been beyound me anyway, how a country with such strict traffic rules like Germany has come to accept thelike foreign driving licenses. As usually, it must be bound to some monetary background, only that it remains unclear to me how that would be looking like. Ruphus
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Date Jan. 15 2012 10:28:23
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vuduchyld
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RE: Parking lot incident (in reply to jg7238)
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Sorry to hear of your run in with the crazy person, jg. In particular, I am always disappointed when people feel the need to bring my ancestors into a current situation. It's probably a leftover piece of baggage from my impoverished years in the 'hood, but when people talk about my mom in that way, it's hard for me to let it go. But...letting it go is a great skill to have. I've read quite a bit of the philosophy of Sakyong Mihpham and others in the Shambala Buddhist movement and I highly recommend the book, Ruling Your World. Check out chapter 5, "Karma", if you ever have a chance. It really changed my perspective, honestly. Although I don't really like a lot of the ancillary stuff they talk about, the Sedona Method for releasing these kinds of emotions can be pretty helpful. There are a lot of things in this world that we have no control over. People will say and do some ridiculous things. But the more we can stay present in the current moment...the less we obsess over possible future consequences or re-live previous pain...the more we live and act in a spirit of kindness and forgiveness...the more likely we are to be happy. It's impossible to be perfect in this regard, but can we improve today over yesterday? Sure we can. It's no fun to get yelled at. But what was it about this incident that REALLY upset you? It probably wasn't the road rage--not too uncommon. It sounds like it was the reminder of your loss of your mother. That's tough to overcome. If you had a mother that you were close to, it's hard. But it can be rewarding to use the incident as a reminder of how lucky you were to have had your mother's guidance and love in your life. Not everybody is so lucky. She probably doesn't have the gift of music that you have either. If you can forgive her for her bad behavior and release the pain that comes from love and loss, that's a good first step, in my opinion.
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Date Jan. 15 2012 19:45:04
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