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Are you offended that people get offended? Or do you just want to be offended so people are less inclined to offend you in the future. Maybye you like to be the offendee, or maybe your thing is being the offender, some may even have offendophobia. Perhaps if we spent less time getting offended and more time defending then there would be no reason to offend in the first place. Offending others may be a great past time but have you ever tried fishing, its pretty good too. Its hard not to offend anyone these days and usually if you never do, you probably never express your opinion. Are we here to walk on eggshells or are we here to discuss flamenco? 
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Date May 1 2006 2:35:09
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Francisco
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Joined: Jun. 13 2005
From: SW USA
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RE: IM OFFENDED (in reply to Guest)
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I had this eloquent reply, which for some wierd reason, was deleted when I tried to post it. 
"Am I offended when someone else becomes offended"? Nope, it's a natural state to be offended when the suitable provocation is provided.
It does take two to tango, though. IOW, even if adequate stimulus is provided to experience a specific emotion, we still have to be willing participants, and allow ourselves to experience said emotion. There are situations where we have less control over our emotions, and, at least for me, these include situations that involve the people in my life that I care deeply about.
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Date May 1 2006 6:53:23
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RE: IM OFFENDED (in reply to Ron.M)
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Yeah i like sayings too, but what is good is hearing a different spin on a very common saying. Example;
'one brick short of a load' or 'one kangaroo short of the top paddock' or ' one beer short of a six pack' or 'one tub short of a tupperware party' etc, my favourite for this bunch is 'the stairs dont quite reach the attic'. 
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Date May 2 2006 2:09:30
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Ricardo
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From: Washington DC
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RE: IM OFFENDED (in reply to Guest)
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When it comes to guitarists and other musicians and artists I admire, I find myself getting easily offended by negative, thoughtless, ill informed remarks. I have a fairly large list of such artists, and when it comes to the internet I find myself getting "offended" every time I log into music forums. I have been told numerous times to "grow a thicker skin" and other such comments when defending artists I admire from what I consider unfair criticism. And there are people who use the "IMO" thing as a license to push people's buttons.
I make it a point to avoid criticizing other artists that I might not really care for, because I know that somewhere out there there is someone who's life has just been saved by said artist. I might pipe in when I feel two artists are being compared that I feel are not in the same calibur, but I try to avoid making myopic statements like "he sucks...he has no feeling...he is a show off...just techniques..." or insinuating cleverly something negative that completely rights off the artist's work as worthless. If I do feel compelled to criticize for whatever reason, I try to be very specific and not do general right off of an artist as a whole.
So yeah I am EASILY offended by comments made about others. I don't want to "grow a thicker skin". I enjoy being vulnerable when it comes to what music can do to me emotionally, and I try to remain open to new things. An artitst who moves me deeply I will defend, because I consider my own personal deep feelings a serious matter. Other artists I may defend lightly or not get involved. If I don't like an artist today, there is a possbility he/she will save my life tommorrow. Why hurt someone's feelings, only to put my foot in my mouth later?
Ricardo
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Date May 2 2006 4:11:26
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JBASHORUN
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RE: IM OFFENDED (in reply to Guest)
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ahhh, the mugshots! They were actually for a project I did at artschool on "restriction"... real mugshots are not accessible to the public (or criminal) over here in England (as far as I know). I managed to arrange a whole day at the local police station, and they gave my the guided tour of the cells, waiting rooms, etc. I also took some photos inside the cells with me sitting on the padded bed thingy. The mugshot was the icing on the cake souvenir. I went on to argue that "money was my prison", due to lack of it. For a conclusion to the project, I made replica of a prison cell out of banknotes using photoshop, then copied and pasted an image of myself into it.
As for real crime, well... I only commited minor offenses as a teenager for the usual, things like drugs. It was part of my teenage rebellion phase, which thankfully I have long grown out of.
lol, and I bet you all thought I was an escaped convict!!!!
Jb
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Date May 2 2006 16:45:32
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John O.
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Joined: Dec. 16 2005
From: Seeheim-Jugenheim, Germany
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RE: IM OFFENDED (in reply to Guest)
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It's always okay to get offended, what's important is the reaction to which situation. Concerning music or favorite musicians in general there's never really any reason IMO to get too angry - passionate, though  If it concerns a person's own playing it's a different story, of course.
When feelings get hurt, especially if it's on purpose, that to me is when it's worth making a stink about. I tend to be quite a puss about taking achievement-oriented criticism myself (guitar playing, work, etc.) and for the same reason am careful about giving it, but see it as my own weakness I need to work on and still invite people to give it honestly if it's constructive.
Any personal offensive stuff I can take well. Not witty, just apathetic - too busy with my own thoughts to care for another's negative ones 
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Date May 3 2006 10:29:07
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