RE: Adios Soledad

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krichards

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

Anders
Sorry,I've been slow to see this thread.

You have my condolences and my thoughts at this sad time.

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Kevin James Shanahan

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

Wish you well .

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ronzy60

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

Condolences Anders...May your God go with you.

Ronzy

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kudo

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

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sole was burnt

may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this??
I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc.
as long as you and her are ok with that...

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Ricardo

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to kudo)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kudo

quote:

sole was burnt

may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this??
I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc.
as long as you and her are ok with that...

Really man???

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 23 2012 21:50:30

HolyEvil

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

Hey Anders.. I'm really sorry for your loss.
I can't say I exactly understand what you are going throught because I never have a partner pass away.
Just grieve for her leaving you for now, but know that she is smiling down on you from heaven and one day, after you pass, you can see her again.

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estebanana

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to kudo)

quote:

quote:

sole was burnt

may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this??
I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc.
as long as you and her are ok with that...

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There are a few billion people, in this world for which this is natural and spiritual. If you read carefully you'll see Anders stated above that he and his wife came to these decisions together. He says they knew one one another so well that even when she was unable to speak or move any longer they could communicate.
I hope I meet someone like that in my life.

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 2:33:38

BarkellWH

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to kudo)

quote:

quote:

sole was burnt
may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this??
I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc.
as long as you and her are ok with that...

I cannot believe that anyone could be so gross and crude as to write the above offensive lines to someone who has just lost his wife. And he has the chutzpah to say that it is OK "as long as you and her are ok with that..." For millions of people, Hindus and others, this is an honorable end. To even question the decision is the heighth of indecency and a vulgar offense.

Bill

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 4:02:21

cavaliotis

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

I suggest that we all let Anders mourn ... please

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 7:09:33

Anders Eliasson

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

Hey. No worries guys. I´m not offended by Kudo´s question.

Yes, Sole knew, she told me a long time ago, and I will ask to be burnt myself when my time comes.

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 7:17:50

machopicasso

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

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noone has taught me so many important things in life. And everything she taught me was indirect and not direct. I had to see it myself through her.

That's a beautiful thing to say. I feel for your loss and also respect her desire for closure on what sounds like an emotionally and physically painful situation.

No one lives forever. We make meaningful connections when we can. And those who manage that are fortunate, even if it's only fleeting.

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 8:51:59

Ruphus

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

On an analytical note, the wish to be conserved completely presents egocentric attitude and bovine, whereas the wish to be burned is indicating a notion of universal being.

Ruphus

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 8:55:30

kudo

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

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Hey. No worries guys. I´m not offended by Kudo´s question.

Yes, Sole knew, she told me a long time ago, and I will ask to be burnt myself when my time comes.

Sorry for asking, as you know, I have no bad intentions, it was just a curious innocent question.. again I am very sorry for your loss, I hope you are getting better day by day.
Im sure you are aware that different cultures and religions bury and treat the dead differently, and some might agree or disagree on some of the procedures.

@Barkell, stay out of this, you devil , you are only here to stir up trouble!

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 12:55:03

mark indigo

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

Thanks for you words Anders,

I'm bearing up pretty well, and yes, there is hope.

the prognosis seems good, the first post chemo treatment scan is clear, but we are waiting for an appointment for another type of scan, so we are still holding our breath!

It's very brave of you to share your personal news experience on a public forum, your posts here about Sole show you to be a remarkable person and an inspiration. Thank you

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 13:49:24

TANúñez

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

My friend, I just saw this thread. I am deeply saddened by your loss. Please accept my most sincere condolences. Your wife has returned to the earth from which it came and in time, you will be reunited again. Until then, live off her spirit as it will remain with you. You two were brought together to form a strong bond. One that cannot be broken. Even by death. Prosper from the lessons that you learned though the good times and the difficult ones. I wish you well my friend.

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 16:39:22

odinz

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

Hey Anders, I just saw this thread.

I am so very sorry for your loss.
In the pictures it looks like rays from the sun shine from her.

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 24 2012 22:04:21

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

My sincere condolences.

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

Anders,
I haven't really been on the Foro lately until today when I saw your post of the untimely passing of your wife. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you can find strength to continue and prosper. I was divorced after 16 years of marriage and while its nothing compared to a death it hurt but I recovered. Flamenco helped and so did my good friends. Hang in there, continue to create and take care of yourself...
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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 27 2012 21:57:11

Anders Eliasson

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

I will continue and I´m already in it. I have to do so, but I´m in a bit of shock right now and I need to sit or lay down and just let memories pass through my mind. ALS is such a brutal dissease. It takes away something every day. Its slow and fast at the same time. 2 years of continuous decay.
I am so deeply sorry that Sole had to go through that horror.
What is with me every day is the 2 most important thing that Sole taught me: To be slow and present and to be in nature without needing anything. Sole was from a very small village (200) in the middle of the plains of Segovia. I never met anyone that connected that directly with nature. She didn´t have to do much, just be there.
The slowliness is important for me. I´m very fast and I learn very fast but I need that slowlyness to go deep. The years I lived here in Beas with Sole, she slowly taught me that by simply showing, and I can see how her spirit entered everything I did. My guitars got better. I started working slower and enjoying my work some more. Not thinking so much about timeschedules etc. Just going into the workshop telling myself, that now I´m going to be here for 4 hours, so better get the best out of it.
We only had 7 years together, but she´ll always be there.

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 28 2012 7:12:10

Samarto

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

Very sad news. She was young of age, but old in wisdom. Time goes fast enough without us hurrying it. ALS is hard. I had a friend die of it a few years ago. Maybe you can make a very special guitar for yourself in her honor and when you play it, her voice will still be heard.

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 28 2012 11:19:33

at_leo_87

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to krichards)

Anders, i am so sorry for your loss.
i am certain she must have felt lucky to have a man who had great passion in the things he loves. i imagine you are in deep, deep pain now, but i think you'll find some relief in knowing that her spirit is now free from pain.

it is clear that you two love each other a lot. her passing may be unfortunate but those 7 years you two spent together surely must have been a tremendous gift.

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date Aug. 28 2012 15:33:23

duende

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RE: Adios Soledad (in reply to Anders Eliasson)

jesus! Sorry to hear that Anders.

I didn´t see this thread untill today. Hope your hangin in there somehow.

My sincere condolences, My thoughts are with you.

Henrik

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