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may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this?? I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc. as long as you and her are ok with that...
may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this?? I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc. as long as you and her are ok with that...
Hey Anders.. I'm really sorry for your loss. I can't say I exactly understand what you are going throught because I never have a partner pass away. Just grieve for her leaving you for now, but know that she is smiling down on you from heaven and one day, after you pass, you can see her again.
may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this?? I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc. as long as you and her are ok with that...
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There are a few billion people, in this world for which this is natural and spiritual. If you read carefully you'll see Anders stated above that he and his wife came to these decisions together. He says they knew one one another so well that even when she was unable to speak or move any longer they could communicate. I hope I meet someone like that in my life.
sole was burnt may i ask.. did she know about this? was she ok with her body being burnt? are you ok with this?? I would never do that, I do not think its respectful to the dead... but hey, I understand that there might be cultural differences/belief and etc. as long as you and her are ok with that...
I cannot believe that anyone could be so gross and crude as to write the above offensive lines to someone who has just lost his wife. And he has the chutzpah to say that it is OK "as long as you and her are ok with that..." For millions of people, Hindus and others, this is an honorable end. To even question the decision is the heighth of indecency and a vulgar offense.
Bill
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And the end of the fight is a tombstone white, With the name of the late deceased, And the epitaph drear, "A fool lies here, Who tried to hustle the East."
noone has taught me so many important things in life. And everything she taught me was indirect and not direct. I had to see it myself through her.
That's a beautiful thing to say. I feel for your loss and also respect her desire for closure on what sounds like an emotionally and physically painful situation.
No one lives forever. We make meaningful connections when we can. And those who manage that are fortunate, even if it's only fleeting.
On an analytical note, the wish to be conserved completely presents egocentric attitude and bovine, whereas the wish to be burned is indicating a notion of universal being.
Hey. No worries guys. I´m not offended by Kudo´s question.
Yes, Sole knew, she told me a long time ago, and I will ask to be burnt myself when my time comes.
Sorry for asking, as you know, I have no bad intentions, it was just a curious innocent question.. again I am very sorry for your loss, I hope you are getting better day by day. Im sure you are aware that different cultures and religions bury and treat the dead differently, and some might agree or disagree on some of the procedures.
@Barkell, stay out of this, you devil , you are only here to stir up trouble!
I'm bearing up pretty well, and yes, there is hope.
the prognosis seems good, the first post chemo treatment scan is clear, but we are waiting for an appointment for another type of scan, so we are still holding our breath!
It's very brave of you to share your personal news experience on a public forum, your posts here about Sole show you to be a remarkable person and an inspiration. Thank you
My friend, I just saw this thread. I am deeply saddened by your loss. Please accept my most sincere condolences. Your wife has returned to the earth from which it came and in time, you will be reunited again. Until then, live off her spirit as it will remain with you. You two were brought together to form a strong bond. One that cannot be broken. Even by death. Prosper from the lessons that you learned though the good times and the difficult ones. I wish you well my friend.
Anders, I haven't really been on the Foro lately until today when I saw your post of the untimely passing of your wife. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you can find strength to continue and prosper. I was divorced after 16 years of marriage and while its nothing compared to a death it hurt but I recovered. Flamenco helped and so did my good friends. Hang in there, continue to create and take care of yourself... Sig--
I will continue and I´m already in it. I have to do so, but I´m in a bit of shock right now and I need to sit or lay down and just let memories pass through my mind. ALS is such a brutal dissease. It takes away something every day. Its slow and fast at the same time. 2 years of continuous decay. I am so deeply sorry that Sole had to go through that horror. What is with me every day is the 2 most important thing that Sole taught me: To be slow and present and to be in nature without needing anything. Sole was from a very small village (200) in the middle of the plains of Segovia. I never met anyone that connected that directly with nature. She didn´t have to do much, just be there. The slowliness is important for me. I´m very fast and I learn very fast but I need that slowlyness to go deep. The years I lived here in Beas with Sole, she slowly taught me that by simply showing, and I can see how her spirit entered everything I did. My guitars got better. I started working slower and enjoying my work some more. Not thinking so much about timeschedules etc. Just going into the workshop telling myself, that now I´m going to be here for 4 hours, so better get the best out of it. We only had 7 years together, but she´ll always be there.
Very sad news. She was young of age, but old in wisdom. Time goes fast enough without us hurrying it. ALS is hard. I had a friend die of it a few years ago. Maybe you can make a very special guitar for yourself in her honor and when you play it, her voice will still be heard.
Anders, i am so sorry for your loss. i am certain she must have felt lucky to have a man who had great passion in the things he loves. i imagine you are in deep, deep pain now, but i think you'll find some relief in knowing that her spirit is now free from pain.
it is clear that you two love each other a lot. her passing may be unfortunate but those 7 years you two spent together surely must have been a tremendous gift.
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