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guitarbuddha

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Jim

Today for the first time I kissed my father on the lips. Although I tried with my breath to reflect back all of the love which he had given me he died in my arms, on the floor of our kithcen.

David.

Jim was only fifty seven.

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

im really sorry to about the loss of your father David, i hope you and your family are coping o.k. That sounds like a very emotional experience. You have my deepest condolences man.
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Zorro02

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Again so sorry to hear about your Dad and so young. Be strong my friend, there is no worse feeling than the feeling you experience when you lose a parent.

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Escribano

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

He was too young, only a few years older than me. My thoughts are with you today.

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

my deepest condolences, what a tragic experience.

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Ailsa

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Hello David,

We have never met, but reading your post brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts are with you.

Ailsa

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date May 1 2007 8:27:42

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

david, thank you for sharing this. again, your experience bought tears to my eyes. this is one of lifes BIG events, something we all have to face at sometime, with no avoiding. The loss of our father. Cherish the love you found at that moment , thats the most valuable thing. go well.

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koella

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

I wish you all the strength you need.

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date May 1 2007 10:08:50

Doitsujin

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Thats really tragic.
Try to go on.

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Jim Opfer

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

I am so sorry to read this David. My thoughts and with you and yours.

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Be strong David!

REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date May 1 2007 12:48:52

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Sorry to hear of your loss, David. I wish you all the best at this difficult time.

Jb

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REPORT THIS POST AS INAPPROPRIATE | Date May 1 2007 12:50:13

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Condolences from me too.

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Ramin

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

David,

Please accept my condolences and thank you for sharing
your story with us.
It sounds like you are well on your way to recovery as you
seem more focused on celebrating your father's life than
merely mourning his loss. All the best!

Ramin

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Sorry, I see my earlier post made it's way to you.

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Estevan

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

David my new friend, I'm so sad to hear this. I can only echo what Simon said - Jim was too young, only a few years older than me. Beyond this, words won't do.

I wish you both well.

Steve

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r0bbie

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

David,

I am realy sorry for the loss of your Dad. I wish you and you family all the strength that you need. You have my deepest condolences.

Rob.

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

David,

I am very sorry to hear that. I have lost my father the same way when he was 57 too in 1996. I will never forget that day. I know exactly what you are going thru. My condolences and hope God gives you the strenght to go thru this tragedy.

TK

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Georg

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

David, my deepest condolences.

I still have my parents, and this post reminded me to enjoy every minute I can share with them.

Georg

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Ron.M

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

David,
I'm really sorry to read of your sad news.
I've lost both my parents (now I'm 57 and heading in that direction myself!).
I know how you feel.
It's really painful, now that you can't say anything more...
Last year my best friend died suddenly and he was the same age as me.
I know that it's more than that, amigo...and that as well as feeling your grief, you still have to find the strength to support others at these times...
My condolences to you and your family and thanks for feeling that we are the sort of people you can tell that loss to in such honesty.

One of the things that really grabbed me after my mother's death was how if you turned on the TV , there was always this stupid game-show or something and people laughing hilariously at complete rubbish, while I felt completely crap.
People just getting on with their current and limited lives...

I suddenly realized this was the point of the "Stop the Clocks" poem...

W. H. Auden

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

Life is always about growing up...

Whether we really wanted to or not.

take care,

Ron

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guitarbuddha

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

Thank you all.

And thanks especially to Ron, those words have been in my mind these last days.

W H Auden was a man who had more love than others could stand to take. And although the intensity of his hopes for them pushed them away in his poetry you feel the beauty of his intention.

My father was as a young man so full of anger because he loved too much and wanted too much for us and from us and his desire fuelled by his love burned so brightly. And it burned us, but him most of all.
But in the last 15 years since his first heart attack he learned to be at peace and the anger stopped. He lived every day simply and his sole ambition was to be there for us his children and his grandchildren.
He was my musical hero, he was a child prodigy on the diatonic accordian ( button box ). He played by ear and with perfect recall. As a child we would sing to him any tune which we had heard on TV or on the radio and by the second verse he would play the tune and a perfect accompaniment with such rhythm and life that we would dance. We thought this normal.
He had no idea how he did it and later in life he only played once or twice a year,when he was drunk. It always shamed me because I was practicing every day all day and studying at the conservatoire (which I had been asked to attend) as an adult and I could not match him. I still could not . He played and he did not know where his fingers were or what note he was playing he just thought about the tune and waggled his fingers and it would just happen.He was a master.

He was a man completely without ego or education but noone has ever understood me so completely and noone ever will. It will always be a comfort to me that he did.

And Ron you are so right to quote Auden because I want you all to feel his loss. We will never see his like again.

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RE: Jim (in reply to guitarbuddha)

David,

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I wish you much strength during this difficult time. I will keep your family in my prayers. Life truly is short and it's unfortunate that it often takes something so tragic to make us realize this. Be strong. You will get through this.

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