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Exitao -> RE: Forum Etiquette (Jan. 16 2009 11:27:11)
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ORIGINAL: Kate
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Jacinto had apparently desisted, or had at least not commented on your 'friend' again, and you come back wanting to argue.
What thread were you reading ? He made loads of very specific comments about Estela after Ron's request. And no my intention was not to argue. My last post on that thread was to try and keep the record straight about Estela's reputation and achievements here in Spain, to keep a balance somehow in the face of his comments.
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It's not an invitation to win your argument in your opponent's forced absence.
There was no forced absence, Jacinto did not miss a beat. Neither was I continuing to argue with him, my post was not directed at Jacinto, I am never going to change his mind about Estela. I posted so everyone else, should they wish, could see other references to Estela's work and accomplishments.
In the thread I'm referring to, Ron made his speech about about playing the ball, not the player. Jacinto continued to make 3 or 4 posts before you replied, but he had stopped talking about Estella (whoever she is when she's at home, as if I care, unless she's your mom or your Sgt., no one deserves that much loyalty).
If the Admin admonished people more often, and strictly, things would not have progressed as badly as they did. Yes, I'm sorry, this is a criticism, we need stronger modding.
I treated you like a schoolgirl because that's how I perceived it. I read Ron admonish and vaguely threaten. I observed Jacinto desisted (without further comment, which appeared to be him following instructions), and then I read you continue to argue.
Take a step back, imagine yourself as a spectator who doesn't understand or care about what you guys are going on about, and then imagine what your impression would be.
You would see one person apparently stopping, and the other person continuing to argue. I don't see any other way to read it.
If you want a conversation to end, you have to stop talking.
Unless your intent is to win or force the other person to continue behaving in a way that gets them banned.
I'm not telling you off. I'm stating my case in no uncertain terms. If you feel like a school girl, that's not my intent. As I fail to see how I could express myself otherwise, I'm not sure it's my concern. I'm not emotionally invested in this, but it seems that you are and I don't know you well enough to calm you down, so I stick to reason.
I just want for there to be a chance for things to cool down.
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