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Richard Jernigan -> RE: Luthiers - can y'all help this dude? (Apr. 19 2016 6:38:53)
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ORIGINAL: Leñador
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"In my day it was very clear that adult children made their own way in the world."
I'm with that Richard, if it makes you feel any better I'm 32 and I've paid market rate rent since age 17 and not only have had nothing handed to me but even occasionally send money to my Mother. But unfortunately I only know one or two people like me. I believe I've heard the income to home price ratio is much more difficult now than in your time and the income to living expense ratio as well. It's hard, but not impossible, I'm doing alright and better every year.
To be clear, both of my kids do OK on their own. My son is in the information technology business, net income in six figures. Daughter is a lawyer, makes a lot more, owns her house and car debt free at age 46. The difference is in attitudes toward the guy who lives entirely off his mother. My reaction is fairly negative. My daughter also knows the guy. She thinks he is a really terrible bum and his mother is a fool. My son thinks it is well within the range of acceptable behavior on the part of both mother and son. Son and daughter differ in age by only 14 months.
One difference is that she left the neighborhood where they both grew up when she went to university at age 18. He has lived in the neighborhood all his life, as it gradually morphed from upper middle class to wealthy. In high school she had more friends with really rich parents, but all those friends have done well in careers or their own businesses. He has more friends who are artists and musicians, but he pays attention to his business.
For a third point of view, beggars and panhandlers piss Larisa off. But if they are making something, or selling something she will buy it even if she doesn't need it or like it. "Guy deserves a little help. I know what it's like to be poor. He's trying to do something for himself, not just asking me to give him some money for nothing."
My daughter would probably agree with Bill Barkel, "Why don't you get a job?" My son would probably go along with Estebanana, "Guy is trying to make it as a musician, has put in the work to become a good player, why not cut him a little slack if he's willing to deal." I'm not sure where Larisa would stand.
RNJ
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