estebanana -> RE: My Brother (Jun. 5 2013 12:44:56)
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have always had a pretty challenging relationship with my brother. And it must be said that I have occasionally been pretty free with invective concerning him. Often whilst getting drunk with a shared friend. Yet at even the mildest slight in his direction from an acquaintance I feel my hackles rise. Is this because I am a hypocrite ? Or is it because the new guy...... well ....he ain't my brother ? I thought this might flow better as one paragraph: I have always had a challenging relationship with my brother, I am free with invective concerning him. Often whilst getting drunk with a friend he and I have in common. Yet at even the mildest slight in his direction from an acquaintance I feel my hackles rise. Is this because I am a hypocrite, or is it because the new guy is not my brother ? Hee hee I messed with your sentences! [:D][:D][:D][:D][:D] I have the same relationship with all of my four sisters as you have with your brother. We can tease each other as much as we want, but when someone else talks poorly about one of the girls I get defensive. I would never think of myself as a hypocrite for this way of being. I have an openly adversarial relationship with one sister in particular, we are highly competitive. We attended college together and competed for attention and validation from a cross section of students who we had over lapping friend relationships with. Her friends were my friends, we competed for attention from people because she began at the college a year before me, then I breezed in and tried to make friends with people she had had existing relationships with. At the time it caused some tensions between my sister and I, and we had harsh words in public once or twice. However if I over heard a guy talking about her in the cafeteria in a manner I did not like I was ready to beat his ass into next Tuesday. I think it's perfectly natural to be protective of a sibling, and as a sibling you have a complex competitive set of emotional gears to shift through that you don't have with non siblings. That means you may not always be outwardly kind to one another, but treat each other roughly because you know the interior of the sibling in a way a non sibling never would or could.
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