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Anders Eliasson -> Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 8:28:43)

Maybe its a weird thing to write on an internet forum, but I´ve been a member since 2003 (other name) and the forum has been very important to me. So here we go.

My lovely wife, Sole (Soledad) died yesterday afternoon 52 years old. She was suffering ALS since 2 years ago. She died of a heartattack in a few seconds sitting in her rocking chair in our house.
She was very bad and wanted to die. She could hardly move anything. Couldnt speak, couldnt write, couldnt eat so it was good she left planet earth before things got really unacceptable.
I´m devided in two. One part of me is so thankfull she was taken away the way she was and the other part.... sorrow.

I´m not sure I will reply much on this thread, but I will be back on the foro very soon. I´m having interesting things going on and life goes on.
Here you have a picture of Sole. Its a little more than a year old when she was a LOT better.



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NormanKliman -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 8:38:57)

Anders,

I'm sorry for your loss. I had no idea. Although we've never met, you've got a friend here in Jerez.

Best,
Norman



Escribano -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 8:43:22)

My deepest sympathy Anders. I have had just an idea of what you have both been through and, although not unexpected, it is tragic news. I remember when we met our wives-to-be around the same time, when we lived in Granada. It's not fair. God bless you both.



Florian -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 8:44:32)

Omg I am so sorry Anders, my deepest and warmest condolences my friend , its heart braking i cant even thing of the right thing to say but know that I am there with you in spirit amigo.

quote:

I´m devided in two. One part of me is so thankfull she was taken away the way she was and the other part.... sorrow.


I completely understand, I had a cousin in Romania i grew up with more like brothers, at 12 he developed a condition that paralyzed him ...at first there was response (id still visit him, make him lough, tell him about my day...he couldn't talk but he would react) after.... it got worst...its like he wasent there anymore, his eyes didn't even look at me anymore when i entered the room...... was being feed through tubes...after about 5 years of worsening conditions and everything they tried was exhausted... and no more hope they decided to pull the plug, I remember being so confused about how i felt...



avimuno -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 8:55:14)

I am so sorry for your loss Anders. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Abrazo!



gerundino63 -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 9:21:27)

We feel very sorry for you my friend, hoped for a few more and better years for you and Sole.
Unfortunatelly it did not happen.....
May she rest in peace, and for you a lot of strenght.

Peter and Annemiek.



michel -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 9:43:07)

don't know what to say
my honest condolences and deepest empathy.



mezzo -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 9:53:47)

I'm very sorry for your loss Anders.



KMMI77 -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 10:33:25)

I'd like to send you my most sincere and best wishes Anders.



Graham_B -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 10:37:37)

Anders

Your wife had a lovely smile
My thoughts are with you.

Graham



gbv1158 -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 11:08:20)

Anders, my friend,
I have no words .... I am VERY sorry for your loss.

un abbraccio,
giambattista



Elie -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 11:15:26)

I'm so sorry Anders.
you're a great person, I hope the coming days will be better and great for you.

she's now in a better place with no pain.



rombsix -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 11:23:57)

My deepest condolences.



Sr. Martins -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 11:29:00)

A vida continua [;)]



Anders Eliasson -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 12:01:11)

Thanks everyone for your nice words. Its highly appreciated and it makes me feel less alone.
Si, la vida continua and Sole sure had a wonderfull smile. I met her on the internet. Her profile had this photo attached and I just had to meet her. I´m greatefull for that. She was very small 1.49 and 43 - 44kg, but noone has taught me so many important things in life. And everything she taught me was indirect and not direct. I had to see it myself through her.



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Arash -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 12:14:32)

I am extremely Sorry for your loss and believe me, while i was reading this, i got tears in my eyes.
My condolences.
You are a great honest man.
Wish you strength.



ralexander -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 12:19:56)

So sorry for your loss, Anders. I agree she had a lovely smile. It's never easy to let go of a loved one, but it's a blessing that her pain is over.

You have lots of friends here, Amigo - we're all looking forward to having you back in due time.



KMMI77 -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 12:56:59)

It has to be one of the most difficult things to understand. That we can feel such love and share so much with another person, and then inevitably be separated from them. The thought has frightened and saddened me many times.


One thing is for sure. We are all destined to follow the same path. I wish i had an understanding of it so i could say something that allows you to feel better. But i unfortunately don't and can't.

I have been sitting here trying to think of something, and looking at you lovely wife's pictures, and thinking about my own love ones. I'm sure you have many great memories with her and her also with you. Those memories will keep you both together.



aarongreen -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 13:00:52)

Hi Anders
Can't express in words how sorry I am for your loss. It's not fair and I hope if nothing else you know that people are thinking of you and your lady. I guess we all should just be aware of the time we have and those we have to share it with.

aaron



Pgh_flamenco -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 13:04:39)

I'm sorry to hear of this, Anders. May she rest in peace...



Argaith -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 13:16:23)

Dear Anders, please accept my most sincere condolences.
May she rest in peace.

A



richard -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 14:29:01)

Sorry to hear that Anders, thoughts are with you.

Richard



xirdneH_imiJ -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 15:29:58)

My sincere condolences, I wish you much strength in these difficult times...



Escribano -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 15:30:30)

quote:

Her profile had this photo attached and I just had to meet her.


I can see why and it is better to remember her in good health, as she would have wanted. Post some more photos of better days, if you like. It can help.

Let your feelings go where they want. Death is far more a part of life in Andalucía than in Northern Europe and I trust the community is supporting you through this time. Wish I was there for you, but be assured we are here if you need anything.

Hope to see you in Bath for a long chat and some excellent local ale one day.



Erik van Goch -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 15:32:17)

My deepest condolences.



Leñador -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 17:01:17)

I'm new to the forum but this is still very hard to hear. My condolences and I wish you great strength and all the best in this new chapter of your life.



estebanana -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 18:00:06)

Anders,

I am very sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself. I have been thinking about you for several weeks and will be for along time to come.

Stephen



kudo -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 18:30:03)

its very hard, Im so sorry to hear that Ander, I know how it feels to lose a loved one who has been suffering from sickness/disease for years... My sincere condolences, I wish you much strength. if it helps, remember the good memories and share them with us. or if it helps, play a solea or seguiriya to comfort yourself....im listening to tarantos right now on canalsur radio while im typing this..Im so sad to hear this..



Don Dionisio -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 18:38:06)

Anders,
My thoughts are also with you. I am sorry for your loss.
I think it is normal to feel divided after a loved one dies after
a long illness-on the one hand you feel relieved for them because
they no longer have to suffer but on the other hand you
feel the tremendous sorrow that their loss leaves you with.
It is obvious that she was a special lady for you.
Take care of yourself.



Richard Jernigan -> RE: Adios Soledad (Aug. 17 2012 19:04:30)

I am sorry to hear of you loss Anders.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Anders Eliasson

no one has taught me so many important things in life. And everything she taught me was indirect and not direct. I had to see it myself through her.



This wil be with you long after the pain of loss has begun to lessen.

RNJ



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