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constructordeguitarras
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From: Seattle, Washington, USA
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RE: Shop assistant? (in reply to Tom Blackshear)
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Many more thanks to all of you. I knew you were an awesome bunch. Richard, I am so glad to hear how these things can progress. Tom I really appreciate your invitation. Maybe a bit later, probably not this month. I should also visit my sister and brother in law in Corrales, NM, which is not too far from you, I think. And yeah, I'm not going to rush into anything. Actually, my shop is so crowded that I can hardly move around in it without bumping into things. Maybe what I need is a roommate, and I have had difficult ones in the past. I have a friend who leases rooms in her house to "visiting scholars" at the University of Washington in town, and they leave after a year or so, so she doesn't get tired of them.
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Date Sep. 3 2014 2:08:25
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Anders Eliasson
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RE: Shop assistant? (in reply to constructordeguitarras)
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Ohh Ethan, thats very sad news. My deepest condolences. It must have been a shock for you and I can imagine the enormous pain you must be in. 2 years ago, I lost my wife. I knew she was going to die and I had known for 2 years, so its absolutely not the same as your loss. I dont know what is worse and I dont think losses like that can be compared. But I know what loss and sorrow is. I´m still there. Most probably you are still in shock, and there´s a good chance that you will be so for quite a while. I havent recovered completely, I´m better now, but there´s still a long way to go and I know that nothing will be the same. I dont think its the time for you to take decissions. Its the time to be in sorrow, and let let emotions float around. If you have a chance to take some time off, do so, its difficult to build guitars and more so when you are in deep sorrow. Your friends advices are all good, but its hard to take advices when you are in sorrow. The emotional state is so overwhelming that its difficult to think. My advice is to tell your friends to take it a bit easy with all the advices. It sounds to me that they end up winding your mind up and its the last you will need now. Wheather to have an asisstant or not, I dont know and I think you should leave it for a while. Sorrow is difficult to live with. It throws you back and forth between the past (the memories of your son) and future (What you had in mind for him (and yourself)) This way present time gets very little space in your life and thats very bad. Sorrow takes time, a lot of time, so dont push it. But sorrow also needs that you go on, if not, it wont disappear. If you go on building, build slow and observe your mind. If sorrow takes over, tell it to go away and come back later. Accept it but tell it to take a break. If you cant do so, dont build. By accepting sorrow you can, to a certain degree, control it and thereby have a little bit of time to live in the present and to be with yourself. And that way go on with life. I wish you all the best Yours sincerely Anders.
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Date Sep. 3 2014 7:50:48
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RE: Shop assistant? (in reply to constructordeguitarras)
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My deepest and heartfelt condolences Ethan I couldn't imagine the extent of the loss My 17 yr old daughter has been admitted/sectionalised twice for attempts Anxiety and depression A thread throughout my family genetic make up ( my grandmother, uncle and older brother ) Each time I am grateful she survived A daily concern with re assurance she is ok ..yet I never really know nor am able to help On the outside she is popular , intelligent , does well academically at school But the black dog gnaws away inside To pass on your beautiful and amazing art would be of great benefit to the world I know that my son is having huge issues finding a trade/apprenticeship ( govt policy has slowly eroded so much hope for our youth ) It would be of great service to a youth, give them a craft and a place in the world It seems a viable and healing option Prayers for you Ethan
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Date Sep. 4 2014 0:57:54
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estebanana
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RE: Shop assistant? (in reply to constructordeguitarras)
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Ethan, I hope you are seeking out perhaps a twice a week group to attend. I'm worried that twice a month might not be enough support for you in person. Something like this happened to me in the mid 1990's and I had to cling for life to a once a week group for two years to get through. I looked forward to the group every week because it gave me a focus point when I felt lost. It was like weekly chart or map. If knew that Weds. night I was going to this group, I knew that I could get what was on my mind to others who I trusted. Somehow knowing this made it so I could keep marching through what I was feeling. We are all different and you might not need that much, but I am worried about twice a month. The important thing is to monitor whether or not your mind is keeping your feet from moving. If your projections and grieving process ever pin you down physically it can make things harder. More regular contact with your support group might be good. But milage varies person to person. Not as important, but some other things, just ideas to kick around: Some other thoughts I have been on since last week: Consider more guitar teaching, take some students when you are ready. I mean really dedicate to a teaching practice. When you are ready, instead of having an apprentice full time or part time...Open your shop on a regular basis for public visits. Make a shop teaching and question and answer day. As guitar maker you know how many people cal to ask if they can learn. Set up a free teaching day or a few hours on a Saturday afternoon and teach something. Take private students that seem serious, but charge a small teaching fee, not always money. Do a barter. Yardwork, cleaning the shop, website work: utilize what skills they have to offer you. Keep it simple. Work with an art student who wants to learn film making and photography. Invite them to come document your process. See what happens. Think of these things as ideas to get you working on ways to cooking on your sense of adventure for social interaction. Try to take a two or three day trip to see mutual friends in the Bay Area at some point in the near future. The weather and flamenco in SF Oakland in September and Oct. is truly wonderful. And if you hit the jack pot in Vegas come visit me. The ticket is pricey to get back and forth, but you are always welcome. And if you want I'll give my recipe for pickled bitter mellon. That way you always have it ready to go for lunch. It's great with rice.
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